Lesbians Have More Orgasms Than Straight Chicks

Sapphic Love by Oggianu Gianluca

A recent article in The Guardian, entitled “Lesbians know the secret to the best orgasm you’re not having” makes a bold claim that the problem with female sexual satisfaction is men. According to a study recently published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine of the 2,850 single men and women who had sexual relations in the past twelve months,  63% of women had orgasms with a familiar male partner, while 85% of the familiar male partners orgasmed. Meanwhile, women doing women had orgasms 75% of the time. The conclusion: Men and lesbians are more likely to have orgasms than heterosexual women.

The idea that women understand the inner and outer workings of other women isn’t new, and in fact, isn’t all that a-ha of a moment. Over a decade ago, Hollywood was all abuzz about this very same thing, just watch the movie Kissing Jessica Stein.

Stating the semi-obvious, what this research is saying is:

1. Women know women’s bodies best. This may also be the reason women prefer female gynecologists. Women know what it’s like to be a woman, to have an orgasm as a woman, to have experiences that only a woman’s body can have. While a woman doesn’t know what it’s like to have an erect pole in her pants (unless, perhaps, she’s packing), it’s still easier to make a pole dance than a hole quake.

2. It’s what’s on the inside that counts. Because the way to a woman’s pleasure isn’t out there, it is more difficult to come by. While guys mainly get stimulation from their external skin (the skin surrounding the penis), women need internal stimulation to have a orgasm. This can be achieved via  the G-spot, the clit, the lips rubbing the clit, or even by indirectly touching the clitoris through the clitoral hood.

3.Women’s orgasms are less predictable. As you can see by the last sentence above, women come in more ways than one. Sure, there’s some variation in how a guy gets off, but women are more complex. Because a woman’s orgasm is more varied and less predictable, it’s less likely for any woman, even a lesbian, to have an orgasm during sexual activity (at least in this study).

4. It takes practice. Lesbians may be better at getting women off than heterosexual males because a woman has to do her homework on her own body before she can get any other female body off. Most women don’t experience the equivalent to a wet dream, meaning there’s generally no, “Oops! did I just orgasm by accident?” For most women a quick rub and tug against the sheets or a sock won’t do much either (however a shower head can do wonders for some women). Because women have to figure their bodies out, women have a lot more practice on female genitalia than the straight guys do. And women can then use this knowledge to give other women orgasms. As a result, a woman’s touch can feel incredible, and incredibly different, than a man’s touch.

The semi-obvious is stated – and now what?

Studies like this are both good and bad. They’re good because it’s nice to maintain a pulse on a sampling of the sexual population.

But it’s bad because it can imply that orgasm is the primary component to sexual satisfaction. While an orgasm is indeed a good measure of satisfaction, an orgasm isn’t always sufficient. If you’ve ever had an orgasm too quickly or without the fanfare you expected, you may know what I’m getting at. While premature “ejaculation” doesn’t happen as often for women as for men, it can happen, and although it can lead to multiple orgasms, it can also lead to the end of sex without the possibility of a deeper connection.

In the end, my biggest takeaway from this study is if a guy is having sex with a girl, he needs to work harder (not faster) to make sure she comes, especially if he’s planning on coming too. The fact that 22% less women are coming than their familiar male lovers is not a comforting figure. While a woman doesn’t need to become a lesbian to have more orgasms, straight guys can learn a lot from women loving women.

How often do you orgasm during sexual activity?